I see it all the time, couples stressed out about purchasing Save the Dates “in time” because somewhere online said that Save the Dates have to go out before the invitations.
But do you even need to send Save the Dates?
Well let me let you in on a little secret….you don’t!
And let’s be frank, there is not one card in an invitation suite that is mandatory. Heck, if you’re eloping you don’t even need the invitation! That being said but there is still a lot of confusion when it comes to Save the Dates.
So let me put your mind at ease
It’s as simple as knowing your wedding day…
The easiest way to know if you should send out Save the Dates is to look at your wedding date.
The Wedding Date will be the key element in almost all your decisions for your wedding. Having a date allows you to back into all your deadlines. The first questions from almost every vendor will be, “When is your wedding?”
12 + months away:
Totally send Save the Dates!
With this much time until the big day, you may want to send out a Save the Date to your guests so they can pencil your Big Day into their calendar.
6-8 months away:
I say skip ’em!
Your Big Day isn’t too far off! Save some money and forget the Save the Dates. BUT, if you have your heart set on sending them, who’s gonna stop you! 😉
5 months or less away:
Screw Save the Dates it’s Invitation time!
If you haven’t already started working with a designer or picked out your invitations we highly suggest you do this step now. You ideally want to contact your stationer 20-26 months out from your wedding to ensure you reserve a spot on your schedule, and they can get all the materials in for your custom designs in time for you to send the invitation suites. (If you haven’t chosen a designer and are starting to feel a little overwhelmed, pour yourself some wine and schedule a Free design consultation.)
If a significant amount of your guests fall into any of the categories below (or you are having a destination wedding), I highly suggest sending save the dates at least 7 months out. (Even if you only send them to these people 😉)
- Military Members
- International Residents
- College Students
- School Teachers
At the end of the day, whether you send out Save the Dates or not, it’s your Wedding! So do what feels right for you and your partner.